Signs She'll Make A Bad Wife Via. AskMen.com

• What You Need To Know
• Certain characteristics are warning signs for a troubled marriage down the road.
• Traits like jealousy and flightiness don't disappear after marriage.
• If she wants you to change now, she will still want to once you're married.

"Contrary to the wisdom of pop songs, love is not enough to make a marriage work. "

If you’re thinking of asking your girlfriend to become your wife, there are a few things to consider first. Deciding if you’re ready to make the commitment to marriage is only half the battle. Now you must figure out if the woman in your life is the right one to devote yourself to until death do you part. It’s a complex situation, but there are a few warning signs that your girlfriend is not marriage material. Here's some of the most obvious hints that she’ll make a bad wife.

She’s flighty

A woman who has trouble committing to a job, a friendship or even a hairstyle might not be the best person to swear your undying loyalty to. If she has tried numerous short-lived career paths or is constantly making new friends and dropping the old ones, these may be indications that she’s not the kind of girl who’s in it for the long haul. Settling down simply may not be in the cards for someone so free-spirited and fickle.

Even if she sticks around, consider the possibility that her ever-changing lifestyle could derail your own life plan as well. Getting married means combining your lives in nearly every sense. Give some serious thought as to whether or not she will be a good influence on your future.

She’s jealous

If your girlfriend is jealous of every girl who comes near you, putting a ring on her finger is not going to make her more secure. Everyone gets jealous sometimes, but if you find yourself constantly having to reassure her that the other women in your life are not a threat to her, this could spell doom for a long-term commitment. A good wife is not possessive or irrational. As long as you’re not giving her any reason to be suspicious, she should be able to keep the green-eyed monster in check.

Her sex drive doesn’t match yours

Sex is an important part of any relationship, and the way you relate to each other physically has a big influence on whether you stay together after you say “I do.” One sign that she might make a bad wife is if her sex drive differs wildly from yours. Whether it’s much higher or much lower than your own, her libido will have a huge effect on your happiness as a married couple. Sex-drive issues can be the result of medical or psychological problems, so problems might come and go, but either way, it’s best to work this out before you walk down the aisle.

She doesn’t want your friends around

A girl who disapproves of you hanging out with your friends will become a wife who doesn’t want you to have your own life outside of the marriage. Even if she’s not that fond of your buddies, she shouldn't stand in the way of you spending time with them on your own. Provided your friends aren’t convincing you to rob banks or some other objectionable behavior, she should trust you to make your own decisions about your friends. If she tries to restrict that now, it’ll only get worse after you say your vows.

She tries to change you

If your girlfriend is constantly nitpicking about your appearance, your behavior, your personality, your career path, your friends, and your habits, she is essentially telling you that you’re not good enough for her. Everyone can make improvements in their lives, and a good partner should help you become a better man, but if she’s forever on your case about changing one thing or another, she’s going to make a bad wife.

You also have to decide whether or not the things she’s asking you to change are reasonable or out of the question. Can you give up your vision of a loft downtown for her desire for a house in the suburbs? What if you’ve always wanted to be a father and she is dead-set against having children? Ask yourself how much you’re willing to give up to please her.

Not marriage material

Contrary to the wisdom of pop songs, love is not enough to make a marriage work. Getting married means sharing your entire life with another person, so you want to make absolutely sure that she is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out. Keep an eye out for these warning signs that she will make a bad wife and avoid committing to the wrong woman.

What Do Women Consider Good Sex?

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love love love.

So my blogger attendance has been pretty awful this month. Partly due to my malfunctioning keyboard which will not, I repeat, WILL NOT, type the letter 'i' without considerable force, thus rendering me hesitant to sit and type for any period of time. But here I am - a mean feat considering the previous statement, so please applaud appropriately ;)


Another reason I have been a rubbish blogger has been my recent trip to the city of romance - BON PARIS!


All sweet and Paris-inspired, I have decided my next blog post will take the form of a LOVE session - where I will share with you some of the things that I really truly adore. Let's go.

The classic Miss Hepburn, at her finest. Who can honestly say they
don't absolutely adore Eliza Doolittle?  Exactly.

Firstly, a true love of mine that I've had since I was small enough to try on my nan's shoes and prance around like a lady - Classic movies. My Fair Lady, Some Like It Hot, anything Carry On. 

All things Disney. Spending four days didn't only turn me into a five year-old again,
it sparked a new surge in my obsession with the mega-brand.

Disneyland. Disney films. Disney Princesses. Disney Villains. Disney icons. The Disney Castle. 

I officially have Disneymania.

I found this little gem in a little old stall outside Notre Dame 
and KNEW it belonged in my future home.

Postcards from beautiful places. There's something terribly nostalgic about postcards. One day I'm going to have books and books filled with all the wonderful places that me and my loved ones have visited. 

My spritz of the moment - Ricci Ricci, by Nina Ricci.
Feminine, Fresh and Floral. Perfect for summer nights.

Parfum - or perfume for those not paris-obsessed and spouting french at every available opportunity. The power of the stuff is, in my mind, completely underestimated. I can be in the most dire mood, and a spritz of the right perfume will lift me instantly. Anyone out there feel the same? 

Old photos like this remind me of all the amazing memories I have with my fam.

My family - like all families, there are times when we murdering eachother seems

like the only viable option. But then there are moments when we're all together, cracking jokes, reminiscing, and generally acting like absolute planks, and I realise, they're actually pretty good as far as families go.

Well that's it for now. I'll be keeping much more up-to-date from now on, so keep checking back :)

Hope you all have a fab week!

xoxo

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Has She Gone Crazy?

• What You Need To Know
• Beware: Crazy women will hook you with sex.
• Signs of her going crazy include dramatic episodes, jealousy and insecurity.
• Dating a crazy woman robs you of your freedom.

"Let's face it: There is nothing like having sex with a crazy woman. "

You're dating your dream girl, and almost everything about her is amazing. You've had a blissful first 30 days. Yes, there have been moments when you scratched your head and thought, “Hmm, her reactions are a little bit off.” But you ignored them because, well, she’s gorgeous, fun and the sex is fantastic.

Just when you think you may have found someone great to hang with, Dream Girl becomes Crazed Lunatic Woman. Has she gone crazy? Let me walk you through the scenario.

Her crazy episodes   

You're out to dinner, enjoying a cocktail with Dream Girl. When the waitress comes to the table to take your order, you smile and tell her how you’d like your steak prepared.

All of a sudden, Dream Girl accuses you of having the hots for the waitress. Her eyes turn all maniacal and her mellifluous voice turns shrill. She is screaming at you. You are so mortified that you want to crawl under the table. Dream Girl storms off to the bathroom.

But it gets better.

Perplexed by all that is happening, you decide that the best course of action is to follow her and try to calm her down by “reasoning with her.” When you get to the ladies’ room, you learn, from the line of women waiting, that she has locked the door. You gently knock, softly pleading with her to let you in. She’s still screaming, but now she’s crying as well. She demands that you admit that you were flirting with the waitress and that you apologize.

Has she gone crazy? What do you do? What any rational man would do. You deny it, of course, and tell her that you were not flirting with the waitress. But, alas, that makes her crazier.

If a scene like this has happened to you, you need to understand that this type of behavior is just the tip of the iceberg, guys. Dream Girl is Crazed Lunatic Woman. In hindsight, you recognize that you have seen glimpses of strange behavior, but nothing like her restaurant reality show.

Dating a crazy woman

So, the question is: What do you do when you're dating beautiful Dream Girl and she becomes Crazed Lunatic Woman? Well, guys, you have a decision to make. The relationship has been great up until now. The sex has been off the charts. Let’s face it: There is nothing like having sex with a crazy woman. If this is not your first tango with a crazy woman, then you have probably noticed that the sex is incredible, fun and fantastic. Do you know why? Because these women are crazy. My theory? The sex with a crazy woman has to be great because it's one of the few things that she can do to hook you in. These crazy women know and understand that if they can hook a man sexually, they have a shot at a relationship. These are the women who show up at your office with a raincoat on and lingerie underneath. She will lure you in sexually so that it will balance out her other lunatic behavior. She is crazy, not stupid.

Has she gone crazy? Yup. Here's what to do about it...

"So, can you reel a crazy girl in? Can you get her to act normal? "

Lots of guys will stick it out and attempt to reel her back in to this place the rest of us call “sanity.” These guys might think, “She's just freaking out a little bit about the waitress right now, so I'll apologize and I'll make sure it never happens again.” But it does happen again. And again. And again.

These are the women who text you at midnight multiple times. “Where are you?” “I thought you were going to be home!” “Are you still out with your friends?” “Are you out there flirting?” “Are you cheating on me?”

So, can you reel a crazy girl in? Can you get her to act normal? 

A resounding “no!”

This is who she is. If you want to stay with this woman, you must accept her, embrace her and learn to work with her. You will need to make sure that you don't look at the waitress. When you're out with friends, you'd better text her and tell her that you're thinking of her and you can't wait to go home and be with her. Make no mistake, you'll never be able to explain rationally to her that you're just out with your friends having a beer and watching the Mets. You're going to have to soothe her fragile ego and her insecurities on a daily basis. So, if you're dating Crazy Lunatic Woman and you really like her -- or really think you might love her -- then you're going to have to learn how to deal with her because she is not going to change. People do not change, their behaviors do not change, and this is a behavior that she's been hiding from you.

Managing a crazy woman

The only way for you to reel her back in and get back your peace of mind is to continually be on damage control and to anticipate her chronic outbursts. You'll learn her tendencies. You'll know that when you go out with friends, she's going to fly off the handle. You’ll know that you will have to text her a few times telling her how much you're thinking about her and how much you can't wait to see her later. You will have to constantly keep her mind at peace because you know she has a jealous side. She exposed it to you many times now. So, whenever you're walking down the street and you see an attractive woman, you say, “Oh man, you're the hottest woman on the entire block. There is nobody prettier than you!” You're going to have to play into her craziness. When you're out to dinner, you're going to have to look at the pretty waitress, order and then say, “She's way too skinny.” You're going to have to do some damage control before the damage happens. This is what happens when she's gone crazy. So, if you want to play that game, great.

Personally, dating crazy women isn't for me. I don't want to play that game. It's not worth it. I don't care how great the sex is, I know that there are other women who are more grounded, saner, mellower, and also great in bed. I hated coming home to a firestorm every time I was out late with friends. So, for me, I chose that path.

But some of you can't give up these crazy women. If that’s the case, the path you're going to need to choose is the one of constant damage control. And one with regular access to Xanax...Good Luck - PB

Is She The One?

• What You Need To Know
• Identify whether you are in love or in lust before getting serious.
• Making a list of deal breakers, goals and qualities you seek will keep you on track.
• Become aware of your own relationship needs to avoid repeating mistakes.

"Everyone is addicted to falling in love (and with good reason)"

When it comes to dating, relationships and marriage, guys throughout history have asked the same questions -- let’s call them the “Eternal Questions" -- over and over: “When is the right time to have sex?” “How do I know it’s time to break up?” “What do I do when she gets pregnant and we didn’t plan it?” These are the sorts of challenges I’ll help you deal with by addressing a new question every week. If you have your own questions you’d like answered, please e-mail me. I’ve been helping people deal with these issues professionally for 14 years. On AskMen, I hope to help even more of you find some positive solutions and move your lives in the directions you want them to go.

A part of you hopes and prays your next first date will be your last, that she’ll turn out to be “the one.” You hope the relationship will magically (and effortlessly) progress and that you will fall madly in love. But is she "the one"?   

Let’s face it: Everyone is addicted to falling in love (and with good reason). It feels amazing, and the high we get when falling in love is unparalleled.    

Addicted to love   

Like all drugs, however, that love high can make us do crazy things. You all have a friend who impulsively flew off to Vegas to marry a woman he barely knew because he was under the influence of love.

When we are in lust, or in the process of falling in love, we tend to overlook so many negative things about that person because so much feels right. We actively throw away any bad data that could ruin our high. We ignore what’s right in front of us.

If you’ve made poor choices because you’ve let a love high influence you, you're not alone. You already know that relationships entered into hastily, based upon the love high, never last. They can’t. Once you come down from that high, you’ll have to scale the Mt. Everest of data that you threw out. And trust me, it’s steep.

Whether you're in love right now or you're out there looking to answer the age-old question “is she the one?” the most important thing you need to know is yourself. The best way to figure out if someone is "the one" is to sort through the women who are clearly not right for you.

Is she the one?   

In order to get a sense of what your needs are, ask yourself these three critical questions:

1. What are the five qualities or attributes in a woman that are really necessary?

Be honest with yourself. What are your needs? Do you need to be around somebody who is affectionate? Smart? How much sex is important to you? Everybody's list is going to be different.

2. What are your long-term goals for the relationship?

Do you want a sexual partner only? Are you looking for a wife? Do you even want to get married? Do you want children?

3. What are your deal breakers?

What are the qualities in a woman that are nonnegotiable? Your past relationships are a fantastic blueprint and can give you great information about what did not work. Did you guys disagree over religion? Disagree about the desire for children?   

Know what you want   

Once you make your three lists, you will have a much better sense of what you need in a relationship, and whether that love high you're feeling is real or based primarily on lust. We men often make mistakes entering into relationships because we are not aware of our needs. We tend to get caught up in the moment and to overlook the things that are most important to us.

 

Check your list

So the next time you are with somebody and you start to wonder if she is the one, check your list! Make sure that the person possesses the qualities you're seeking in a partner. If you're missing a core ingredient, the relationship will never work out. If you consult your list, you won't find yourself in a relationship with a person who is like a best friend but with whom the sex is so bad you can’t take it anymore, and you won't be in a relationship where the sex is fantastic, but the woman isn’t emotionally stable and doesn’t make you feel comfortable.

Make your lists. Do some soul searching to know exactly what you need. If you're in a relationship, see if the woman you're seeing fulfills your criteria. You can only get what you desire if you're able to identify it.

First Date Body-Language Mistakes

• What You Need To Know
• Don't look closed off by crossing your arms (even if it feels comfortable).
• Overdoing it on the head nod will make it seem like you're disinterested.
• Make the effort to lean toward her. It shows you're interested.

"Although you can't fake a connection with someone, you can definitely enhance it by trying to get on their wavelength. "

First dates are all about seeing whether or not you and the woman you’ve asked out are in sync. You might pay special attention to what you say (which is a good thing), to how you clean yourself up (big bonus) and to any sparks that fly over the dinner table. But don’t fall into the trap of letting your body language mess things up for you. Here are 10 first date body-language mistakes to keep out of her sight.

Pointing your feet away from her

When we like something, our bodies instinctively want to move closer to it. It happens subconsciously a lot of the time, but be aware of your feet. Are they pointing in her direction or at a hot girl at the bar? Be sure that they’re facing the woman you’re on a date with, as this is positive body language that shows her you’re interested.

Patting her during a hug

A hug at the end of the date is a great way to show her you want to touch her (and women want to be touched), but don’t pat her on the back. Although this could happen when you feel a bit nervous or you don’t want her to think you’re jumping her, the back pat gives her the idea that you are uncomfortable getting closer to her or that you just don’t want to make contact. Yes, it’s that bad. Always lean toward her when you reach in, and if you don’t want to come on too strong, make it a short hug.

Moving too quickly

You might not realize that your body often mirrors your internal emotional world. If you’re feeling a bit nervous about the first date, it could be reflected in your body language, such as make fast movements while talking or eating. This first date body-language mistake tells her you’re nervous and maybe even insecure. The impression you want to make is that you’re calm, collected and confident. So become more aware of your body and try to slow down your movements.

Nodding too much

If you nod a lot while your date is speaking, she’s going to think you’re not really listening or you just want her to wrap up what she’s rambling on about so that you can take the stage again. Basically, it tells her you’re not interested in what she has to say. Of course, nodding a little bit can be good because it shows that you agree with certain things she says, but keep it to a minimum.

Speaking out of sync

Mirroring each other on a first date creates the impression of being on the same wavelength. Pay attention not only to what your bodies are doing but also to how your speech patterns match. If she speaks really fast and you’re more mellow, for example, it throws you out of sync. Try to match her, as this will make your conversation flow. Although you can’t fake a connection with someone, you can definitely enhance it by trying to get on their wavelength. 

She might even think that you're just bored of her company and it's causing you to shred those napkins. "

Crossing your arms

Maybe crossing your arms is just a stance you feel comfortable in, but it will make your date feel that you are literally closing yourself off from her, which explains why this makes our list of first date body language mistakes. That’s never going to make her feel warm and fuzzy inside on a first date. Try to keep your arms extended or open as much as you can so that you show her you are willing to engage in conversation.

Invading her space

Sometimes instead of blocking yourself off from your date, you end up being a little too engaging. You might move too closely to her so that you’re breathing the same puff of air. Although you think she might have been flirting with you or sending you signals for you to move closer, it’s too soon. Plus, even if you’re charming and she’s showing interest, if you’re invading her personal space, you risk it being seen as an instant turnoff. 

Fiddling around

Fiddling with objects or not being able to stay still could be seen as displaying nervousness, a lack of confidence or disinterest. She might even think that you’re just bored of her company and it’s causing you to shred those napkins. Try to remain still and focus on your date. Immerse yourself in the moment and show genuine interest. Keep still and don’t fiddle, so that your confidence speaks for itself.

Intense eye contact

Eye contact is always a must when it comes to displaying good body language on a date, but don’t think that this means you should laser into her eyes. Can you say creepy? It will make her uncomfortable or cause her to feel like she’s being scrutinized by you. Let your eyes meet across the candlelight -- but not for longer than a few seconds so it’s not awkward. Do not turn her off with this first date body language mistake.

Touching her

Perhaps you’ve been laughing, enjoying some drinks and giving each other a lot of flirtatious looks, so it’s only natural to think that it’s OK to reach over and touch her. Don’t! You might be coming on a little too strongly for a first date, and she’ll likely assume that you’re only interested in her for sex. The only time it’s OK to touch her is if she touched you first, like if she has brushed your arm during a joke. In that case, she’s giving you the go-ahead and hoping you mirror her actions.

Is it wrong to acquire new friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, that you have NO attraction to?

I had an interesting convo today that I wanted to ask you guys/gals how you felt on the subject.  Is is wrong to acquire new friends of the opposite sex that you have NO attraction to?  The lines have been laid, the boundaries are set, you have a friend that totally understands you have a man, or chick at home, and has no intentions on wreaking that, or ruining your new found friendship.

It seems to me that people can no longer be friends with the opposite sex, due to the increasing amount of emotionally hi-jacking partners that would rather have their partner either have and loose the few friends he/she currently has, rather than continue to grow socially and meet new people.

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Scenario One:

You have a male friend at work that you have NO attraction to; none what so ever, and you and him, maybe a few other co-workers or not, decide to grab a quick lunch....Is that considered wrong?  Or are you in some simplistic form of the word, cheating?  There is no out of work communication, maybe an exchange of phone numbers or emailing, Facebooking, or Twittering, you are just friends, that happen to share similar interest.

Are you cheating?

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Scenario Two:

Are you really going to tell me that while your dating your new (Boo) you can no longer, ever, hit the Confirm Friend button until you two either die or break up?

I personally think your outside your mind, if you think my social life should cease because of another persons insecurity.  But maybe I'm just looking at this from a guys perspective.

There is a poll on the right nav that you are free to vote on and let me know you thoughts.  Pass this along to your friends and see what they think.  I'm really curious to know your thoughts on the subject.

8 Signs She's Interested In You

Men hate it when women reject them. There's nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your dreams turns you down for a date. You really thought she was interested, but somehow you must have misread her signals.

From the male point of view, women are often far too subtle and indirect -- or just plain confusing -- when revealing their romantic interest (unless you happen to be really good-looking and loaded with cash, in which case they call you ). And yes, women often send mixed messages because they're not sure of what's going on inside their own heads.

What most guys are looking for is a set of clear female signals that tell them when a woman is definitely warm for their form.

Does this exist? Well, here are a few signs that should tell you that she probably wants you to ask her out.

1- She's "in your face"

Suddenly, you'll become aware of her presence everywhere -- she "just happens" to show up wherever you hang out; you keep passing her in the hallway at work; she "accidentally" bumps into you; she maneuvers to stand close to you at a club.

What she's doing is trying to get you to notice her and giving you an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and consequently throw away a lot of chances to hook up. Men are direct; women are indirect. So, next time a woman starts appearing regularly in your path, be aware that she's likely doing it on purpose.

2- She has all the right moves

A lot of people say that bodies can't lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays such as smiling or touching.

Here are a few body-language cues to watch out for:

• She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
• She leans toward you while talking.
• She plays with or tosses her hair.
• She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.
• She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
• She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).
• She smiling when you check her out.

If you become aware of a cluster of these signals, you can almost be sure that she's giving you the green light for romance.

3- She's never too busy

This is a cardinal rule in the dating game: If a woman is interested in going out with you, she will make herself available . This means that she will give you her work number or e-mail address, she will quickly answer or return your call and she will accept your invitation to get together -- and if she's busy on the day you specify, she will say something like, "Well, I can't this Saturday, but next Saturday would be fine, if that's OK."

You'll never hear from an interested woman things like, "I'm really busy right now," or "Let me check my schedule," or "I just got out of a bad relationship, so I'm all mixed up about men." Even if she's currently actively dating someone else, she will keep the lines of communication open with you for the possibility of future contact.

4- She's curious about you

A woman who's interested in you wants to know everything about you (so she can talk about you with her girlfriends). She will quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in such things as food, music and movies. Very often, what she's doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you -- if you're crazy about hot air ballooning, suddenly, she is too.

5- She uses "The Probe" on you

"The Probe" is the female tool used for ascertaining a man's financial resources. The Probe seems like a series of casual questions, but behind it is a ruthless calculator that's ticking away. When a woman first meets a man that she might be interested in dating, she will quiz him on his job, where he lives and what kind of car he drives, all within the confines of a natural conversation. If you give the "right" answers, then the flirting signals will follow; but if you aren't up to her "standards," she's gone in a cloud of dust.

6- She "futures" you

An interested woman is wide open for any future plans with you. In fact, she will often say something like, "Oh... you like bowling, too? We should do that some time." When she's operating in this mode, make no mistake about it -- she wants you to ask her out.

7- She's on pins and needles

If she's really interested, she'll be as nervous as a cat around you, especially if you're clueless about reading her signals. Of course, she could be just a normally shy person, so watch how she interacts with others -- if she's only fidgety around you, then she's probably thinking romance.

8- She's jealous of other women you talk to

She has the green-eyed monster on her back. An interested woman will watch her competition like a hawk (and with talons bared). So, if you notice her steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants you to be more than just her friend. 

it's time to make your move

These are some of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you. But be on your toes -- spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest (a lot of women are openly friendly to everyone).

However, if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date this weekend.

My new favorite couple - @ebenet

While Halle Berry enjoys the company of French actor Olivier Martinez, her ex-husband Eric Benet is planning his next wedding.

Eric, an alternative R&B singer, proposed to girlfriend of three years Manuaela Testolini in November, but they are just now announcing the news.

A rep for the 44-year-old singer tells UsMagazine.com: 'They are engaged and very happy.

Congrats on the engagement!

The Cocky Guy’s Downfall

Better Man in brief ...

• Test your funny insults on female friends or your sister before using them to impress her.
• Never neglect the humor and become overly cocky. She'll think you're a jerk.
• Remember to always tailor your teasing. All women don't fall for the same approach.

"Winning a woman with cockiness should not neglect the funny aspect; otherwise all she’ll see is an arrogant jerk."

You think she’s hot, but instead of complimenting her, you throw in a light joke about what she’s wearing. You’re not afraid to use the Cocky & Funny strategy with women, because it usually works. That’s if you pay attention to what well-known dating coach David DeAngelo has to say on the topic. But if you go off on a tangent and misinterpret what being cocky is all about, it could totally backfire on you.

So here’s what you need to know before you throw her a few “funny” insults.

Cocky Becomes Insulting

Yes, her dress looks like it should be banned in certain countries, but ripping it to shreds with the scissors of your tongue will not be construed as charming to her ears. Look, there’s a difference between softly teasing her about something and taking the humor too far. Bear this in mind: She’ll take to you if you tease, but not if you degrade. To help you discern between the two, test your funny insults on your female friends or sister. If their jaws drop to the floor or their glares burn your eyes, then you shouldn’t risk getting a drink splashed in your face from the sexy woman at the bar.

Cocky Becomes Immature

As David DeAngelo has said, when using Cocky & Funny, you have to ensure that you pair an arrogant comment with humor. What you say has to be funny and make others laugh. Keep this rule in mind to prevent focusing too much on the arrogant side of things or becoming immature. You don’t want her to think you’ve lapsed back in time to grade school and you’re one minute away from pulling her hair or throwing her crayons on the floor. What’s a no-no is dishing her too many cocky comments, to the point where she’s looking awkward and you’re overdoing your approach. Winning a woman with cockiness should not neglect the funny aspect; otherwise all she’ll see is an arrogant jerk.

Cocky Becomes Boring

Sure, you’ve used the cocky approach on other women before, and you clinched success. But that doesn’t mean you should assume those exact words will work on the woman you’re currently eying. Making such an assumption can lead you to either believe you’ve got this one in the bag or view her as nothing more than a challenge. She’ll see your efforts as you trying to outdo yourself or impress her. In other words, she’s not going to feel that you’re trying to hit on her to have a conversation, but rather that you’re focused on winning. Prepare for her to turn her attention elsewhere.

This isn’t a comedy lineup with you as the starting act."

Cocky Becomes Mechanical

For any flirting tactic to be successful, you have to adapt it to the situation at hand. Forget going through strategies in your head, where you plan what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it. This isn’t a comedy lineup with you as the starting act. Doing this adds pressure and kills the spontaneity of flirting. Remember that when you approach a woman, she’ll not only be listening to what you say, but also scanning the energy behind the words. Awkward or strained energy will just make her wish she could pull you off the stage.

Cocky Is Misdirected

When you want to be Cocky & Funny, you might totally forget about your audience, which is a bad idea. Not all women are going to lap up your efforts, just like not all women like tall guys, so you have to tweak your strategy a little depending on who she is. Do this by observing her from afar for hints. Does she seem like an extremely shy girl or a party animal, for instance? Does she seem to be too serious, to the point where she probably wouldn’t “get” your humor? You have to suss her out a bit before you launch into your strategy.

Cocky Is Ill Timed

Then, of course, there’s always the chance that she just had a bad day and wants to be left alone to drown her sorrows in her martini. The last thing she wants is for you to march over and tell her you are sure she wants to spend the night with you. This could be irritating or make her feel like you’re needling her. So when going over to say "Hi," bear a thought for the fact that you don’t know where she’s at. Try to suss this out in conversation before immediately slam-dunking her into cocky banter.

Cocky Is Overdrawn

Ever heard women moan to each other that some guys just never know when to stop? Avoid being one of those guys by stopping and checking her reaction to what you’re saying. Though you don’t want to bore her with common chatter, you also don’t want to use cockiness to the point where she starts doubting that you’re really interested in pursuing something with her. Your cockiness and humor are useful to grab her attention, but underneath them you should not lose sight of the fact that you want to be building a real conversation and hopefully connecting.

Are You Living Or Just Existing?

Life is for living, not just existing. As our days are filled with various, mundane obligations, it’s easy to forget to enjoy life. As crazy as it seems many of us don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to laugh as much as we should and partake in the simple things we enjoy doing; but when it’s all said and done, do you want to have gone through life coasting along fulfilling all major obligations, but forgetting to simply breathe and enjoy life?

From our jobs, that give us a headache at the mere thought of them, to our less than meaningful relationships, some of us have allowed mediocrity to be the overall theme of our lives. Sure you may have to take a pay cut to do what you really want; but at least you will be happier and more fulfilled. And so what if your relationships are filled with a variety of associates; but when it comes to healthy relationships, quantity always takes precedence over quality.

As you reflect over how you want to live your life, consider these things daily to ensure that you are living and not just existing. After all, none of us were put on earth simply to take up space.